Saturday, February 18, 2012

Midnight Theories

Sure, feelings may come and go
But it seems as though the words will never flow
From my thoughts into this pen
Even if I try again and again

I wonder how he does it
To adorn those words so beautifully
To make it seem like it comes naturally
As if there are no cares in this world

"As I look up at the sky
I feel as though I fade away
From the ones I love and hate
This I do not deny

I fear not my future
For it will come one day
All I have to say is
'Watch out for it, babe'

Tell me again
But do not cry
I'll heal your wounds
As time goes by"

These words aren't mine
I wish they were
I'm not the one
You once longed for...

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Arguements in Relationships

Are you constantly in positions where you are caught up in an arguement and it seems to go nowhere? Do you feel like you constantly go around in circles with disputes? Are you afraid of confrontations?

Here's a tip on how to remedy this.

At least most, if not all, relationships have arguements; it's a natural thing, whether they are small arguements or big ones.
It's normal to have arguements once in a while, and in this you both must recognize and understand how to handle it when it happens.
Don't put it off or ignore it, it will only grow bigger and become worse.
Deal with it then and there and you won't have to hassle with it later.

One excellent way to better grasp and get through problems when you are in a serious relationship with someone is to focus on one point at a time. Instead of berating one another on how they feel or the message they are trying to convey, try understanding where they are coming from. If you do not understand, then ask. Maybe you need to have a heart to heart conversation.
If your significant other comes to you and says you both need to talk, stop and listen. Understand.
Don't focus on your feelings and what you think when they are telling you the way they feel; all you are doing is making the situation about you and ignoring them. Take one step at a time.

This works for me, so hopefully it could work for you as well.
Thanks for reading!

Monday, February 13, 2012

Philly D on the news and my little tangent.

Check out this Philip Defranco video posted on Monday, February 13, 2012. ------------------------------------ Sent from the Unofficial Philly D Android App. Search "sxephil" in the Market!

I agree with what Phillip DeFranco said about Chris Brown and his fans.
I DO NOT take this subject lightly.

As an independent woman, I find the teen tweets highly disgusting.
Either these kids are stupid, trolls, or haven't had any kind of experience in this matter. I'm not saying that they should have experience, but that this is not a laughing matter. This kind of thing really angers me. I feel that those (men or women) who beat on another for whatever emotional reasoning or irrational logic they process in their thick, mindless skulls have major issues with themselves.Trying to control someone with physical abuse is a childish way of handling situations.
When something does not go your way, you do not lash out and have a fit like a child.You are supposed to be an adult; act like one.
If you are angry at someone, you do not beat them.
If you are disappointed in what someone did, you do not beat them.
Words would suffice; violence is never the answer in these cases.

 As a child I remember looking at my mother's bruised face after my father had beaten her.The impact from his fist busted a blood vessel in her eye.I was not at home to witness the event, but I remember it like it was yesterday.I remember being angry at my father and confused at the situation.I did not understand why he had hit her and why my family had started to fall apart.I remember what my older sister told him back then. She had the most serious tone and look on her face that a child could conjure up and said, "Daddy, you not supposed to hit women!"

 As I conveyed before, I do not take this kind of thing lightly.It is a serious situation every time it happens.So to all of the kids that find Chris Brown hilarious, do you want him to beat the f*c* out of you? Would you enjoy that? Do you think you would not suffer injury?I don't think so.
Ladies, could you imagine what would be going through a man's head when he is beating on you (and vice versa)?He might intend on killing you, or if that wasn't his goal, your death is still a possibility.


30 things to stop doing yourself.

I found this while Stumbling on the internet, and I believe it to be quite useful and that everyone can learn something from this.
These are 30 things that can help better yourself, and I'm all for self-improvement.
I believe that no one is perfect, and that it is impossible to be perfect, but I also believe that there is always room for improvement. For if we as a human race do not improve, not only are we devolving and impairing ourselves, but we are bending the world to meet our needs, not evolving ourselves to meet the world and our planet's needs.
So here they are. I hope you enjoy!

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Rich man's war

Dead things

I found this poor fellow while taking a walk around the block the other day. It looks suspicious to me, since there is a big bag nearby, as if someone had deliberately killed the dog and tried to cover it up.
Speaking of death...
Yesterday, news came by and Whitney Houston died.(R.I.P) Of what? I'm not quite positive yet, but I'll soon find out.
I'm still not quite sure how to deal with deaths. I've known family members to die, but not closely related family members. Or if they were closely related, we never communicated enough for me to mourn their deaths.
Does this mean I am cold hearted? No!
Just... inexperienced, I guess you could say.

My aunt Monica, who wasn't really my aunt, died yesterday as well.(R.I.P) She stopped breathing in the middle of a Roses store, and died then and there.
I don't remember how old she was, but I know she had a lot of health problems, like diabetes.
Truth be told, I don't think she ever watched what she ate, even after finding out she had diabetes.
Everything she ate wasn't perfect unless it had sugar on it.
Things like fried chicken.
So, was she asking for her death to come sooner than it possibly could?

My mom also recently found out that she has diabetes.
This could have been prevented if she had listened to me.
Ever since middle school I've tried to get her to go outside and exercise so she could lose the extra weight she's been carrying for years.
But she understands things better now, and will hopefully monitor her health better.
She is currently still alive and kicking.

Soul food gets the best of African Americans sometimes.